Fighting For Peace!

The two words peace and fighting are often used together, but really don’t belong together. If you are fighting against anything then it cancels out your peace! No matter what is causing you problems or disturbing your peace understand that by fighting against it and resisting it will definitely not bring you peace.

Issue:
There will always be things competing to get your attention, people, jobs, kids, money, television, homes, things, status etc. But it’s up to us to choose what will have the privilege of receiving the ultimate prize (Our Attention). Have you ever noticed when you are minding your own business and you feel most at peace, here comes something to distract you from that surreal feeling to pull you in to drama. It could be a phone call from someone that want to pull your attention in, your car acting up out of the blue, or a bill collector or an annoying problem that just won’t go away! Our elders would say that the enemy is busy to keep us distracted from giving our attention to the creator.

Solution:
I’ve often found that when my emotions are running high and I am angry and upset, that I have a tendency to focus in on the very thing that is causing me the problem; which allows the villain to win. When something or someone is trying to push your buttons, the ultimate prize is to get you to resist, the more you resist something the more pull the problem have on you. Stop wrestling with problems in your mind, stop asking why and calm your spirit and get your focus back. This process might take you a minute so walk away, hang up, stop texting, e-mailing and just shut everything down for a moment.

Defeat comes from having and displaying out of control emotions, regain control and take a good look at what is going on, divert your attention somewhere else for a moment.Having passion for what you believe in is awesome, but losing your focus because of it is not. Mother Theresa, said it best, when asked if she would attend an anti-war rally, she replied, “No! But, if you have a rally for peace I’ll be there!” Don’t forge a war against something you don’t like, but rally for things you do. If someone is doing something wrong, then speak of the correct thing you want them to do, then thank them in advance for doing it, instead of complaining about what they won’t do that is wrong!! I was once out with a friend whose child was being unruly, another form of getting a parent attention. He did not allow her actions to anger him he simply asked her to sit down and thanked her as though she had done it already!! Yes, I know this does not always work with your kids and enemies all the time, but keeping your focus does!!

Arguments are normally between people that want to be proven right, one or the two of you want to be the good spouse, the good parent, the good employee, the one that everyone can say that it was not your fault, or you were the good one. You know in your heart, who you are, so why try and prove to that ex-spouse or ex-employer or anyone that doubts you or who you are? Their opinion is only one in the world of many so allow them to have it and keep moving.

Let go of needing to be right, there are no awards handed out for being right. I know that you are saying, “But he won’t let me, or she made me, or what they did was this or that. We all have stories of hurt and injustices, but learning to concede and take sometime off from the fight, this will allow you to breathe new life, and will give you a chance to unwind, and have a fresh prospective. When in battle the opponent job is to distract you so that they can find a weak spot and attack you. There are some of us on this planet that are so unhappy or envious of others that are perceived to have peace and happiness, that they will purposely try to disturb you because they don’t want to hurt, be in pain or suffer alone. Misery does indeed love your company.

Understand that the prize they are after is your attention & peace!!