Involved or Committed?

Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt you were totally committed to this person, and that they were also committed to you, but to only find out later that, although you both agreed to be committed, the two of you were really only involved?

This concept and question applies to your commitment to your life, are you truly committed to your goals, your dreams or are you just involved. Many of us go day to day with the images in our head of what we want to achieve and have, but we put the process of doing what we need to do on the back burner. Thus we are only involved in our fantasy of doing what it takes to make things happen instead of being committed. How can you expect others to be committed to you when you are not committed to your self?

If you are like me then your want list is pretty long, some may want a healthier or sexier body, some may want to be debt free, more money in the bank, and some may want a love interest or to make the relationship that you have better with your self or others. All these goals are viable and legitimate in your mind and heart, but what steps are you taking to make this happen?

Yes, I do understand that most of us have jobs, kids and other responsibilities on top of all the things that we say we want. But, what is stopping us from achieving these goals?
I have always struggled with my weight, some months I am on target and some months I just don’t want to think about it. Although I have been told that I am good, the way I am and my mate seem to be satisfied. I on the other hand want certain stability with my body. I was reading an article written by Dr. Sklare a well known psychologist and he posed the question “When are you going to take control of your life and make the right decisions to get you where you need to be”?

We each have two personalities our grown up that makes the hard decisions and our inner child that can be rebellious and cause us to do things that are not conducive to our goals. Example: The grown up knows that you need to take your medication daily or that you probably don’t need to purchase that new item with your rent money, but the child want it now and will urge you to throw caution to the wind and just do it!!

This process is a thin balance and some order needs to be brought so that we have some balance in our lives. The time has come for us to put our lives under new management so that we can see some prosperous returns on our investments in our selves. Would you allow a seven year old to manage your finances or would you prefer a grown up to make those decisions?

Holding on to the past is a hindrance to your future.
Yes, many have said that you must remember where you came from, to know where you are going. I don’t agree, because where I was then is no where as to where I plan to be. Let go of the Ex’s and the Nay Sayers and haters, let go of your Parents, you have nothing to prove to anyone but your self and God! Why is it that you continue to do the same thing and expect a different result? Why is it that you are divorced from a situation but ever time you speak of the situation or speak to whom you have let go of, you still have the anger or you still have the same arguments as though you are still in it? A child has no control over their emotions, so they fuss, cry and scream to prove their point! Are you involved in this turmoil of distractions and interference in your life or are you a grown up that has decided to put new management in to place?

Make a list of what you are trying to achieve, make a plan on how to get you there. Once you make the decision allow your grown up to make the good choices and stop putting off today for tomorrow. If you know you want to lose weight then stop eating those cookies and cakes and find a way to make better choices. If you need to take medication stop pretending you don’t and take it or find a healthier way of improving your health so that you don’t have to take meds. If you are still fussing with your Ex or current spouse, stop it!! It takes more energy to be right then to focus on what you need to do for you. Be committed to your self!!

Love, Peace and Much Respect
Gia
P.S. Thank you to my family and friends for all the love and support during my health issues, 3 surgeries later I am still going strong!! Love you!