What are you feeling?
As many times as I write about the coming of change, it still resonates in my mind that what is going on in our lives at this moment is what we are thinking and feeling about daily. If you take an internal inventory of what your (self) conversation is about, then there you will find the key to what your life is saying about and to you this very moment.
I would always hear my Grand father talk about the measure of a man is by how well he kept his word. In my Grandparents time a person’s ability to be truthful and deliver on what they promised was the measure of that person’s character. It determined if they were allowed in to your inner circle. Too many of us are allowing people in to our inner circles with out even knowing if this person is for our good or if they are someone trying to attain something for their own use.
I was told from one of my college professors that if you are asked a question by someone you must learn to ask why they are asking you the question. This is how a person can trick or trip you in to situations, problems or bait you in to doing something you may not want to do. I think back of how things were in the day of our parents and Grand Parents people were not as free and trusting unless you were known by someone they had enough experience to examine a person closely to determine where they fit in and if they were friend or foe. In my family when ever you would meet someone new, the first question that was asked is “Where you from and who are your people?
As a child I would often hear the phrase; “They are from good people.” Back then your linage was your calling card to respect or allowed you acceptance in to places you could not normally go on your own. I think everyone comes for something, sometimes friendship, love, intimacy, admiration, companionship or support. The key is what you allow them to take. Be very cautious of your words, they are worth more then you will ever know. A person can take a statement that you could easily have said jokingly or seriously and cause a chain of events that you might not have been anticipating. Also listen closely to the words that are coming out of other people mouths as well as your own! Each word creates a reality which can be good or bad it’s your choice. The Creator gave us gifts of great magnitude, some of us will use them to gain success, and some will only be left holding on to dreams.
There are thousands of self help books that talk about Love, and learning that everything wants and deserve love. This must be applied to your self first, learning to love you mean applying the same theory as if you were courting someone. Take you to dinner, take you to the movies, spend sometime with your self, by your self and figure out what you really want. Once you find that self love, then everything around you will began to blossom.
I know that we single people are always by our selves, but we spend so much time being distracted, and feeling sorry for our selves or confused that we really don’t spend any quality time alone. We talk our selves out of any true happy feelings that we could allow our selves to have by being critical and trying to force our selves to measure up to our own disillusion status of what making it really is.
It’s time to get real with our selves, take off the band aid and allow the scar to heal on its own. I am not judging any one or being selfish, we all of service to others at some time or the other in our lives. But everything starts with us, and how we conduct our selves and our lives. Don’t give up, there is hope.
Love, Peace N Much Respect!
Gia
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